Anyone can be beautiful, but not everyone is. After a workout session with a friend, we were sitting in a dry sauna room, and he was talking about this girl that was saying something like, “Fat people are beautiful”.
Without getting into too much detail, basically, her argument was that everyone is beautiful, and that you just need to have the right perspective. She’s right, but that right perspective is a hugely detrimental one, but I’m not here to talk about the health aspect of this conversation.
Instead, I am going to talk about a belief that I have held ever since I was 18 years old. I believed that anyone can become beautiful.
Now at first this was just a belief that did not have any evidence, but I forced myself to find evidence, and if I could not find it out there, I was going to make it myself.
I remember when I first started telling people of my philosophy, and all the backlash I got. People were telling me that it was simply not true, and that there will be people that will never be beautiful, attractive, or sexy. Take away mental/physical diseases, I believed otherwise.
Now as I have explained before, a belief is a statement attached with evidence. And if you want to get rid of a bad belief, you have to replace it with a new one. The belief that I was trying to prove to myself was that, “Anyone can be beautiful”.
When I first started out, I had no evidence. At the time, I was a 6/7 at best, and was on average a 5/6. The only thing that I had going for me was that I was tall. I was a scrawny kid with a cocky attitude that had too much to prove. I was unevenly tan(too tan, actually), I did not take care of my skin effectively, and my confidence was really low.
However, after working out for years, taking on a couple of careers, getting into a great school, and everything else I did in between, one day I came to a realization. I realized that I was a 10. I don’t remember the exact moment, but I realized that I no longer felt like an underdog. And of course there were external factors as well, like the attention I would get, and advances from other attractive women.
The evidence that I created to prove my belief was not just from myself, but was something that I constantly saw from my living at the gym for 5 years.
At the gym, I saw transformation after transformation. Skinny to buff. Fat to Slim. I have seen it all. When people start exercising, they start eating right, they start taking better care of their skin, and they start taking on other healthy habits, like reading. They just become better people overall.
And after the five years, I have also seen girls from my high school, people that were never popular, and were even considered weird/ugly, flourish into beautiful young women.
Now back to my friend.
Anyone can be beautiful, but not when you’re fat. You have to workout. You have to get healthy. One of the biggest reasons why being fit is attractive is because that it is a sign that the person is healthy and able to reproduce and take care of themselves and their children.
If you’re fat, you’re not beautiful, but you can be. Drop the fork. Pick up a dumbbell.
It’s that simple,
Obviously, I was talking about physical beauty, not inner beauty.