I have been bitching about the fact that there are less and less men, and how people are getting softer and softer. And all I have been doing was hardening myself, and separating myself from people that I thought were too soft, but I believe that this is not the way to go.
Hard Men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times.
Nothing productive will come from my complaining. I decided to take some ownership of the problem, and realize that I was actually a part of it. Wanting to be a part of the solution, I realized that it is not enough for myself to be a strong man, but I have a duty to try to strengthen the boys around me as well.
Luckily, I hold a teaching position for young teenage boys at my local church, and I have always been trying to make them more manly by providing an example. I have even tried to teach them mma, but that did not go so well either. And ever since then, I have been taking a more laid back position. But since two weeks ago, I have been taking more initiative to make a lasting change in their lives. A change where the kids will look back at those sunday groups, and be glad to have participated in them.
There are a couple of things that I have implemented already, like giving them a group name, and some rudimentary disciplinary things such as not wearing hats indoors, and saying thank you after anyone has spoken, and so I will have to hold the line with those things.
But I am now creating small lesson plans, where I talk about things that aim to reverse engineer the things that they may have learned, and teach them that it is okay to be a man, and to try be more manly.
I would not be where I am right now if it were not for the male role models that I had to show my what it meant to be a man. I am just trying to pay it forward.
It’s that simple,