Creating and maintaining habits is something that I have been doing and mastering for years now. I am no where near where I want to be, but I believe that the models I have created can be helpful to someone. I have adopted a lot of good habits, and have gotten rid of a lot of bad ones. I believe that the best way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. Easier said than done. However, after doing this for so many years, I see some patterns that were common which each habit.
So here is the basic cycle of each habit.
- Habitual creation
- character fusion
I have learned that the hardest stage is the first one. This is going to be pretty obvious to all of you, but the hardest mile to run is the first one. The hardest workout is going to be the first one. The first step of implementation is by far the largest hurdle to get over, but however, once you get over it, it is much easier from there. And this is powerful information by itself, because you know to expect the hurdle, but you also know that it is temporary, and that things will get better. It gives you hope.
This stage usually lasts anywhere from 1-2 weeks.
Once you have gotten a couple of weeks on your belt, you will be in the repetition stage. This is the stage when it still takes effort for you to do something, but you are getting use to doing the habit. The key to this stage is that the feeling of not doing it, or not having to do it will show up. You will feel satisfied with the progress that you made, and you will tell yourself comforting lies to take some rest or stop altogether. You think to yourself that you already got the habit, when in reality you’re only half way there. It is funny how people give up at the hardest and the easiest. Just keep going.
The third step occurs within about a month. This means it has become a habit, and you do not have to even think about doing the thing that you told yourself what you are going to do. You should be proud of yourself, you should have endured all the positive changes to your character, and it should feel great. But if this is the stage where the habit is solidified, what is the next stage?
Character fusion is by far the strongest effect of creating a habit. This is when the habit fundamentally changes who you are. This is what takes a person from being someone who works out, to an athlete, or someone that has to workout.
Exercise has always been a habit of mine. I have exercised my whole life, but it was only until recently where I now have to work out. I have to improve. I have to get in better shape, and it creates more positive habits. Character fusion is the step where the habit becomes an essential part of your identity. A minor version of this occurs during the third stage, so do not trick yourself into thinking that after a year, character fusion has occurred. The level of change is much more dramatic. This is what makes people work out in bathrooms before a meal, do pushups anywhere, and use door handles as pull-up bars. It takes years for this to occur. It is kind of like the difference between an amateur and a master. But if you keep up the habit, you will get there. I bet you already are there with some habits.
Please tell me what those habits are down below~