Think about how many times a day you critique yourself. You might not have done anything wrong, or anything in that moment, but you tell yourself, “That you are a piece of shit.” Or you remember a time where you did something wrong, and then you critique yourself from there. How many of you simpletons take time to just say bad things to yourself? What would happen if you spend the same amount of energy and vigor to compliment or support yourself?
Life is not the vacation that you spend in Japan for a month. Life is not the delicious food and cheap drinks that you buy for a weekend. Life is in the things that you do on a daily basis. Your life is coming home from school/work, and deciding whether you will be productive or not. Life is what you do at school/work, and deciding whether you will be passionate about what you are doing or not.
This is something that I have always known, but I did not really know. Do you know what I mean? One of those things that you always knew, but it took someone smarter than you to say it in a clear way for you to actually internalize that knowledge.
I was always hard on myself in my own mind. But usually this was a good thing, because I would stop myself from giving up, and tell myself to go harder. However, I overdeveloped this portion of my brain, and it started to tell me that I was a piece of shit. Now, I am developing the other side of my brain that is purely supportive. A crucial distinction and warning that I would have to make is that people mix this voice up with the voice that tells them comforting lies. Do not make this mistake. The former will lead you to heaven, the latter will lead you to hell.
There are 2 things that I do to insure that I achieve a supportive voice in my head.
I remind myself everyday to not say anything that will make you weak.
I remind myself to not lie, and to be honest(which are 2 different things).
The first thing is to make sure that I limit the voice in my head that pushes me. The second is to make sure that the voice I’m working on does not turn into the one that will deceive me and tell me comforting lies.
These things are hard to do. Especially if you have lived a life where most of the things that you tell yourself are lies and dispiriting. I am in a more privileged position, because I have gotten over the large humps of depression in my life. However, if you want to change your life, you just have to change what you repeat. The changes will be drastic in a positive way if you let it.
It’s that simple,