In the Great War, there were tragedies experienced by people that were just like you and I, that, if experienced individually, would have made them go insane. And, however disturbing this thought may be, because there were people to experience the atrocities together, people were able to contend with all the pain and death, and go through the hell, and make it our alive. Community evolves humanity.
When I becomes we, our already infinite potential multiplies at an exponential rate. Now if you want to learn more about the Great War, I would recommend Dan Carlin’s podcast, “Hardcore History“, his descriptive powers paired with his voice creates such powerful images, that you are forced to do nothing but listen in awe.
The easiest and most simple way to get stronger is to have people that will be there for you.
“You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” -Tim Ferriss(might not be his quote, but he said it, haha).
And there are two ways to go about making those 5 people the correct people. You can either subtract or add. Think about the people you spend the most time with, and I want you to divide those people into 2 categories; toxic and supplementary. If the people on your list are negative, have bad beliefs, put you down, or attract negative behavior, you should either cut them out of your life completely, or limit the time you spend with them. Now the opposite goes for people that build you up, that are honest, and attract positive behavior. Try to spend more time with those people.
An Important Truth
This list is never set in stone. As we go through life, we meet all kinds of people, and the list of our friends grow, and sometimes it shrinks. So as the people in our lives fluctuate, so must our list of 5 friends (This mindfulness of the quality of a person is useful in all other aspects of life as well.). And there will be times when you meet a person that is substantial. Someone so amazing and edifying, and once you do, lock them down on that list. If you choose your list of 5 wisely, those people will stay on that list for the rest of your life. But first, you have to choose the best 5.
Another Tip. If people do not want to be on your list, if they do not want to be in your life, let them go. Do not force anyone to stay in your life. Tyler Perry(whatever preconceptions of him you may have), in one of his plays, made a great speech about the nature of friendships and how some people are in it for the season, and how some are in it for the long run.
Choose those people wisely, because there will come a time when life will not only test you, but also the people you have chosen to rely on. As much as an individual test life may be, there are some group work portions as well.
Good luck in finding those who matter forever!