Why I choose to not have friends


“You’re the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with most”


 

It is inescapable. Whenever we meet/talk to people, we are affected in some way. Less in strangers, more in people. And if you want to make the quality of your life better and easier, you have to be strategic with who you spend your time with.

 

If you choose your friends poorly, they can bring you down with them. Now this doesn’t mean that you are better than them. You are not looking for people that you are better than, instead you are looking for people that you connect with, and that help you grow. You are looking for people that are of higher caliber.


Being Selective

Wait, doesn’t that mean that you are looking for people that are better? Absolutely. What I meant in the paragraph below is that as humans, we are all equal. None of us deserve more than the other, but individually, we differ in our beliefs, dreams, and accomplishments. What I am advising is that you surround yourself with people that will empower you, instead of lowering you. If you are the average of the 5 people you most surround yourself with, then you owe it to yourself to choose those people wisely.

 

This is why I choose to not have friends. Not that I do not have any friends, but rather, if I deem someone to have a detrimental personality, I will actively choose to not be close with them. Of course, I will still be nice to them, but I will not actively try to befriend them. And if I have assumed correctly, neither will they.

 

I probably only have 4 people that I consider to be my “friends”. And this isn’t by accident, this was by choice. They edify me, and we mold each other emotionally and intellectually.


Conclusion

Choose your friends  wisely. If you do, it will become much easier for you to grow, and you will grow at an exponential rate.

5 thoughts on “Why I choose to not have friends

  1. I do agree with you. I think nowadays I set some boundaries when I get to know some new people, or even people Ive been knowing for few months. Finding “Real friends” is not a easy job, but once I find, I am SO happy 🙂

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