Now, if you have been following my blog, you might be getting tired of how much I have been writing about a navy seal named Jocko Willink. I have been obsessed with his podcasts and book, and I have just been learning so much, and I want to share what I have learned.
Everything Bad that happens to you, it is all your fault.
His book, “Extreme Ownership”, which I have linked above, is all about taking responsibility for everything, because everything is your responsibility. If something is not executed correctly by someone below you, then you have not communicated effectively how the proper way to execute that very thing. If someone makes you feel bad because of something they did or say, it is not that person’s fault that you got hurt, it is yours.
Now whether this philosophy is 100% morally correct is not important, let me explain why.
What does blaming a person do? Only one thing, makes you feel better by passing the blame. What happens when you take full responsibility? You reflect inwards and you see what you can do to not only make the situation better, but also what you can do to make yourself better.
If you take full responsibility, you take full control.
You take life into your own hands, and you become your own master.
You stop depending on the others and the world to provide you a sound state of mind, or a happy life. You become who you are, not because of what someone did, but because of what you did. And I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a lot better deal to me.